Feb 4, 2020
Clarion Herald and NOLA Catholic Parenting associate editor Christine Bordelon talks with bloggers and columnists Gaby Smith LaMorte discuss the “5 Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman, physical touch, quality time, acts of service.
1:05: Stacy LaMorte wrote about it in September 2019. It is something important to her. It was introduced to her in 1998 after being in several bad relationships. A social worker asked if she was speaking the same love language as the people she dated and recommended the book. She said the first thing you do is take a quiz, and the love language that fits you the best will have the highest score, but there is usually another that comes close.
2:15. Practicing these love languages has changed Stacy’s life. Her primary love language is acts of service and just knowing that and having people do things for her is the biggest gift someone can give her. She give acts of service all the time to other people because it is her way of showing love. She was dating someone who gave her gifts, but that’s not how she received love, so that relationship didn’t work. He probably felt unloved, she now recalls, because she was broke and not buying him gifts in return. It can be stifling if you are giving the wrong kind of love.
3:10 Gaby: has read the books four or five times and made her husband take the quiz. She discovered his was acts of service, so what she does makes him happy. Her love language is quality time. She could be binge watching Netflix for hours, and she’s happy. Her secondary is gifts – small tokens like a flower from her son are appreciated. The languages made her think of members of her family like her mom who appreciates acts of service. She highly recommends everyone to read the book for concrete ways to give love.
4:40: Christine asks them if it’s easy to practice. They said yes.
4:50: Stacy said her son’s language is quality time; another of her children is a snuggler so hers is physical touch.
5:40 Gaby’s son is quality time and physical touch. So him showing a magic trick, tossing football makes him feel loved because he is getting undivided attention.
6:15: Christiie said columnist/blogger Courtney Elmer said it’s easy to determine people’s languages. Just watch what people do and see how they give love or just ask so you know what type of love language suits them best. Christine thought words of affirmation was an interesting love language. She discovered her was quality time with her husband over any gift that could be given. We should read the book together
7:40 Stacy: There is great resource online www.5lovelanguages.com that has quizzes for couples, singles, teens or children to assess the different love languages. You can do it even if you don’t read the book. It immediately shows a person’s primary love languages.
8:55 Gaby: The book gives concrete examples of what you can do, like sending simple texts or words of affirmation throughout the day since affirmation is her husband’s secondary love language.